Motherhood

The TIME magazine cover “Are you Mom Enough?”, shows a women breastfeeding a child. This does not depict breastfeeding in the typical way. The women is standing with her hands on her hips and the child is a boy, probably around four years old, standing on a stool to reach his mother’s breast. In my opinion this is a negative representation of women. The mother is not breast feeding in a nurturing way she is exposing most of her chest and the child she is breast feeding is old enough to walk, which in my opinion means he is old enough to eat on his own. Dr. Sears could be anti-feminist but I am not sure this ad was meant to depict her as being anti-feminist. I do not think you are a better mother if you practice attached parenting, what makes someone a good mother is the way they treat their child, I don’t think it has to do with whether or not that child was breast fed. I think the main thing that is not being said is that mother’s “should” practice attached parenting and that they would be “better” mothers if they did.

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Menstruation

Menstruation and periods is something that really doesn’t bother me at all to talk about today but when I was younger it freaked me out. I feel like I have always known about periods and can’t really remember the first time I heard about them. I became a competitive dancer when I was nine years old and our team was like a family, the older girls would talk about their periods all the time so it was normal for the younger girls to hear about. Even though I heard people talking about their periods all the time I was still scared to get mine because I was my dad’s little girl and didn’t what to grow up (but mostly because I thought my dad couldn’t handle it).

 Because I was very active it affected my period, I first got mine in eighth grade and it was never regular. For the first two years I had my period, it was terrible. I suffered from migraines previously, which only got worse the week of my period. I also would get terrible pains; I had cramps, back pain, even pain down my legs. For a while I just would deal with the pain, usually staying home from school and just laying around on the worst days, but eventually I told my mother about the leg pain I was experiencing and the excruciating cramps and she took me to a doctor. I had blood work done and it turned out I had a blood deficiency called, Von Willebrands Disease that was adding to the pain I was experiencing. This disease is a common hereditary disease and affects a factor in blood. The factor that’s missing does not allow your blood to clot properly and causes excessive bleeding. Both men and women can have this deficiency but women often experience more symptoms from it because of their periods. Once I found out what the problem was I was put on two medications, one for the disease to try and help the blood factor and birth control to help regulate my period. Today I am still on those medications and they have helped 100%. The pain I used to get reduced so much that I sometimes do not even get cramps at all, usually the only reason I know I’m going to be getting my period is because my emotions are off the wall. Sometimes I catch myself getting overly sensitive or angry at something for absolutely no reason but I guess that just comes with being a girl.

Gay Rights

For as long as I can remember I have been a supporter of gay rights. I have an aunt would is a lesbian and I also have a few friends that are gay. I see absolutely nothing wrong with gay people being able to get married. The only difference between homosexuals and heterosexuals is the type of person they are attracted to. I do not think that anyone has the right to tell someone who they should or should not be allowed to marry.

The material we viewed and discussed in class opened my eyes to all the different types of sexualities there can be, like bisexual and transsexual. Also the material we looked at in class made me realize that there really are a lot of people who support gay rights and aren’t necessarily gay themselves.

I do believe that in the future gay rights will be granted across the globe to all citizens. With all the support there is for it today i don’t see how eventually gay rights will be granted. However there might always be hate and intolerance to some extent, mostly because of what people’s views were in the past and how those views carry through generations.

Human Trafficking

 

Human trafficking affects thousands of people each year. It mostly affects women but there are tons of male victims too. Human trafficking can also affect people of all different ages, as young as three years old. The subject of human trafficking is one that can really create a knot in your stomach. It sickens me to think of how young and innocent these victims are and how tortured their lives become.

Human trafficking is something that has been around for years and is not something that I believe would be easy to stop. I do not think that it could ever truly be solved. Even if it were to be “stopped”, it would just be hidden from the public; I think it would still go on behind closed doors. I think forming a global alliance could definitely help the situation but unfortunately I do not think it could fully stop it from happening. We can prevent trafficking by enforcing current laws or creating new ones but there does not really seem to be anyway to stop what happens behind closed doors. I think girls need to know that there is help for them; they do not need to listen to the men or even women who control them.

Domestic Violence-Rihanna and Chris Brown

When I first heard about the high profile violence case with Chris Brown and Rihanna I was shocked. Chris Brown had allegedly beaten Rihanna leaving her with bruises, bite marks, and a bloody face. Pictures of Rihanna’s battered face flooded the internet and news channels, this case became very public but some of the details remained unclear. Weeks after the incident reporters said they knew that it was definitely Chris Brown who committed this horrible act of violence. What really surprised me the most with this case was the fact that Rihanna and Chris began dating again after all of this had happened.

                At first I did have sympathy for Rihanna because even if she tried to defend herself Chris was obviously much stronger and could do much more damage to her then she could ever have done to him. I also felt bad for Rihanna because this case became so public and it was such a personal matter. However I lost all sympathy for her when she forgave Chris Brown and it frustrates me that she would be in a relationship with him again after what he did. I just cannot understand how anyone, man or woman, could forgive and feel safe around someone that so violently beat them.

                If I could say anything to either of them it would be “why?”. For Chris it would be, why did you do this, what makes you think that was okay, and why are you back in a relationship with someone that got you so angry to the point you became violent? And my questions for Rihanna is why would you go back with someone that beat you and why do you think he won’t do something like this again?

“So a Girl Walks Into a Comedy Club”

I think the women acted reasonably when she left after being verbally harassed however I do not think she should have said anything in the first place. Although rape jokes can be very offensive and I do personally find them offensive there are so many other issues that are made into jokes and there is really no stopping them.  I personally wouldn’t have said anything because I feel like it wouldn’t be the right time and place. Maybe after the show I would confront the comedian or the manager and explain how offensive a joke like that can be but I wouldn’t have interrupted. I think the women should have just got up and left if it offended her that much. However after Daniel Tosh began to verbally harass her she had every right to stand up for herself. The fact that he would try to make another joke after someone expressed their feeling about how offended they were is appalling

Jokes can definitely contribute to a societal attitude about a topic. Making a joke of something is a way to lighten up a subject and make less of it. I believe that many of today’s comedians play off of offensives jokes and unfortunately do not realize how hurtful they can be to some people. I also think that there are just certain subjects that should not be made into jokes, such as rape. Not only can these jokes be offensive but they can also make the victims of these jokes feel as if what they went through isn’t that big of a deal when in reality it is life altering.

The joke itself doesn’t really implicate a more serious problem but the comedian’s response to the women does. Instead of apologizing he made yet another offensive joke about rape. He made this women feel inferior and embarrassed in front of a crowd of people, so much so that she felt she had to get up and leave. The comedian’s insinuations of gang rape left this women fearful and I personally think it was demanding to all women, saying that it would be “funny if she got raped”, if I were there I would have got up and left with her and I’d hope other people would follow too.

Street Harassment

Street harassment is something that’s quite common in today’s society. Most women will experience some form of street harassment at some point in their lives, whether it’s being whistled at, called a name, or just being looked at in a sexual way.

One example of street harassment that I’ve experience was when my cousin and I went to New York City for the day. My cousin and I are both around the same age and prime victims of street harassment. It was summer and a particularly hot day so we did both have shorts on but nothing revealing or out of the ordinary. As we were walking through the city we did notice a few men giving us weird looks, but we decided to ignore it for the most part. However, when we were walking across the street a man, probably in his forties,  was staring at us from across the street and when he passed us he looked us both up and down and said something like, “damn you girls look good today”, and continued to look at our bodies, not our faces, when saying this. This comment completely disgusted both me and my cousin. A man around the age of our fathers was looking at us as a piece of meat.  I felt violated that a man so much older than me was making a sexual remark for no apparent reason and it upset me for the rest of the day, and actually still bothers me to this day.

This wasn’t the only time I had been harassed and I know it probably won’t be the last. Unfortunately there is not much a young girl can do to stop street harassment; it could be dangerous if she were to confront a man much older than her about a comment or look he gave her especially if she was alone or not in a very populated area.  I personally feel like if there were enough people around me to ensure I would be safe I’d have no problem saying something to someone harassing me. I don’t think it would really do too much if I did, the man would most likely continue harassing other girls anyway, but at least I would feel like I stood up for myself and other women and who knows maybe it would make the man realize what he’s doing is wrong.